Hi Steviepdx, Thank you for your message and everyone for the responses. I have a 21 yo pot addicted son who I had to evict from our home in February. He is still living on his own with little sign that he wants recovery. I am still early in my recovery, and am trying to let go little by little. I stay in touch with him (and try to see him once a week). I am not really keen on "no contact" as our intention was to protect the family from his addiction not to punish him.
While I have been asking him to get into some treatment (in patient of or outpatient) he has not been cooperative. I have been thinking that I should just drop the subject and just let him be (as Ann has suggested above). I think its clear the best thing we can do is to focus on our recovery not theirs.