GREAT post Tuffgirl! We discussed this in my Alanon meeting the other night. I realized (after a lot of self work) that I made the choice to stay where I was in the chaos. No matter what my A did or didn't do, I had to own my behaviors and my choices. If I chose to continue down the path I was on with my A, then I had to own that as MY decision and choice.
I chose to take a new path. It was really scary at first, and I didn't see how it could work out. But it did. I continue to see that happen for others as well. Even if the A doesn't change, our lives can change for the better. It's a choice we have to make.
Thanks for sharing this Tuffgirl.
