working on his sobriety....what does that mean? is he clean and sober, 100% now today?
you are permitted to begin to put yourself first now....you are permitted to ask if you want to keep sticking by this financial disaster who makes zero sense and has used and abused drugs at the cost of a home you both valued so dearly. maybe when you think about a place, you think about a place FOR YOU. one that doesn't come with ready-made messes and chaos and heartbreak up the gazoo.