Originally Posted by
Tryingtoletgo3 
I'm struggling with the fact that the voicemails he left during his last temper tantrum are the last time I will hear the voice of the man who I love with all of my heart and I have children with. Months ago, when I ran into him at the grocery store and he was drunk, was the last time that I would lay eyes on him.
Honey, I understand this anguish, first hand, as do many here on SR. And I don't mean to minimize your suffering - I truly feel and understand it.
But please try to remember that YOU ultimately have the "last word" with regard to this man, this marriage. And that word, those memories, will be beautiful. Because you get to be grateful for your children EVERY DAY, and see the best of him in THEM.
For you and the kids, the healing with go on and on. This is triumph, even if it doesn't feel like it right now.
Take care, take heart. ((((hugs)))))
SQ