Honestly, I myself can't grasp why brilliant people like us do such stupid things like get fall-down drunk either! Seriously, I think that's what's so confounding about our problem...Anyway, one thing we can all agree on is that chocolate milk does make things much better, right?
I hope you and your BF can figure out ways to handle both your pain and struggles in ways that are respectful and caring.
Best to you,
June