You guys are acting out a very codependent dance.
Perhaps you can get him to go to an alanon meeting, or read a book? Codependent no more is a good one.
Unfortunately for you, the best think for him is to detach from you. Not care whether or not you drink. This doesnt mean he cannot care for you, but its extremely unhealthy to try and run your recovery.
He needs to realize that he has no control over your drinking, your addiction or you personally.
He's trying to control your drinking by guilting you, and getting mad, perhaps making ultimatums.
And you are very likely to get pissed off and resentful about him acting like a dick, and go out and drink about it.
Sound familiar?