Hammer

Hello, My Name is Hammer.

Checking in, here to get to work.

Copied down from the FFA Alkies section . . . .

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So I chaired a meeting last week -- my sponsor was out, and he was supposed to chair, so I was promoted to the task.

Tried to cover a topic I see a LOT of you ask about. The Big Happy Ending you/we/I always seem to ask about and want.

I guess I have told you all my sponsor was married for 56 years, knew his Mrs. for 60 years, and they were AA (her) and Alanon (him) for 34 years. She died this last year, but he is my sponsor because I want what he had.

So at any rate, this particular group is a High Mileage Long Timer group with some SERIOUSLY good "angels" in it for me. Other folks have 30+ years, a couple of the women have outlived their A's (who were also regular work-the-program A(s)). But to answer the common question of those who make it . . . . that seems to be the "trick." They both take their program quite seriously, and work it.

I picked the theme for story night as "How Do Long Time Couples Make It?" Went around the room and THAT was the common theme. They Work Their Program, and You Work Yours.

Even one lady who divorced her A husband. Turns out now they are good friends and they do stuff together. Some 20+ years sober. But Both are working their own program.

Finally the last guy in the room. A Plumber. I like him, but he is a Plumber. I am an Electrical Guy. I came up in the trades, and now an Engineer in the same. In practice . . . on job sites . . . The Plumbers and Electricians tend to stick forks in each other. Just established pissing roles.

So went it came to him last, he said, that was all pretty good stories, but he was thinking about something else.

He knows I have not been doing my step work.

He got to square on me and unload. So funny. Started talking about some guy that told him a story about "How to make it, in a 12 Step Program." Said the guy had told him . . .

"I would think that if I were in a Step Based Program, like this one . . . I would be pretty stupid for Not Working those Steps. I am just speaking about what some guy told me but -- Would not you think someone NOT working the steps was Pretty Stupid?"

Shocked the hell out of me, but I could not but help laugh and love him for that.

Even as arrogant as I am -- I LOVE Correction.

So that is what Hammer is now doing. Not worrying or concerning so much about Mrs. Hammer. Hammer is going to be working HIS Steps and Getting MY Side in VERY GOOD Order.

Otherwise -- I have to agree with the Plumber -- I would be Pretty Stupid.