Just when we think the rides over...its only just begun.
I think sometimes we believe that once they get sober they are easier to deal with and less weight on us. Not true.
I also think we want it to work so bad that we have a hard time relinquishing control or atleast the fantasy of it.
As frustrating as it is....if hes willing he will. Sounds like hes in more trouble than he wants to believe but you wont be the one to wake him up. If anything ask him if hell atleast talk to a professional who specialities in addiction instead of aa.to give it a try. Maybe they can talk to him better or he could try other group programs that are different than aa.