Originally Posted by
phoenix929 
He knows what he needs to do to get back on track, to find his way back to sobriety. But I don't have a list. What do I do!?
Yes....he knows what he needs to do to get back on track. But you asked an extremely important question "what do I do?"
The best thing we can do for ourselves and the addict is to take care of ourselves first. Whatever that looks like.....take care of you. For some of us, that means going to our own meetings to help us learn tools in coping with our loved one's addiction (Nar-Anon, Al-Anon, and CoDA are some examples) or going to private counseling. Reading. Posting here on SR. WE need help too.
You are not alone. Most of us understand how torn you feel between staying and violating your own boundary.....or leaving and dealing with a broken heart. Like most of us, you will do whatever you do until that turmoil inside is resolved.
Time always reveals more. Please.....take care of you.
gentle hugs
ke