Thank you for your kind responses and support. It means a lot to me. I just came back from a family group meeting run by the director of the city!s detox centre. I was told in passing by the director that my son did come and meet with him yesterday, but my son is not ready to quit yet. There is some hope that he has asked for a followup appointment.
Hearing the other parents and spouses of addicts talk, I realize that I have to let him go . He must experience the negative consequences himself. Drugging and drinking is still fun for him and the party is not over yet. In his mind, He has not lost anything significant yet. Since he started using in his early teens, he is emotionally still a 14 year old boy and not a 21 year old man. I will just have to wait patiently till the party is over and he has hit his bottom.