I think two parents are definitely ideal, it was a relief to me to make that decision because it meant I took the accelerator off trying to find 'the one'. And since last two b/f have had drinking problems. I think I prefer not to rush into the arms of another unsuitable partner- just to have kids. Or even (as I crazily thought 1 year ago) that kids would fix the drinking problem. Glad now to be slowing down, focussing on myself and getting better first. Then we shall see what God's will is for me. (Kids or no kids, partner or no partner).