Sasha4 you have been very helpful to me in understanding the mentality of my son and where he is at right now. I realise my part in your above text but from now on I have decided to change all that. There will be no more cash for food, certainly no more buying him drinks. If his father chooses to carry on then I am powerless to alter his actions.
I received a very nice text this afternoon from my son and when I get these it makes me wonder if I'm wrong about him. Just a sweet and normal text asking if I had a good day yesterday and a couple of kisses. He drops these kind of texts in from time to time .... probably to reel me back in and then ask me for money. I did reply and decided that I would in future reply to the nice texts like this and I will ignore the whining and the emotional blackmail ones.
Thank you for taking the time to write here. It means a lot to me. It gives me strength to carry on with this tough stance.