m1k3

That's ok, you're not going to solve this today.

Baby steps are a good start. I simply started with some little stuff. Doing some stuff for myself that I liked, things that I could do alone. Going for walks, the library or even movies. I also learned to say 'no'. Just because she wanted to do something or needed help with something didn't mean I had to do it.
Someone posted here that if you never say no then your yes's are meaningless.

It seems like a simple beginning now but I remember how hard it was to make these first little baby steps. It just felt wrong not to be putting her first.

Now it seems normal.

Your friend,