I have not tried anything in the form of outside help yet.
I have tried to deal with it alone until tonight when I realised I just cant do it alone.
I plan to go and see my councillor and would love to go and see my partners councillor also. (I know she can not tell me what is said in his sessions which honestly is none of my business and I don't want it to be my business, but I feel that she may be able to give the most relevant advice to me based on her knowledge of his situation.)
I have looked into Alanon tonight after it was suggested to me and am waiting for a reply from them regarding meetings in my area.
I joined SR tonight to try to cope through tonights struggles at least. Chances are there will be many more posts from me as I do not know of many other forms of help that could be given outside of business hours which is the times that I struggle the most.
There is only so much I can burden my family and friends before they themselves find it all too much.