Thank you - yes I am definitely not ready at the moment.
I am also overly cautious and follow 'rules' I am given (i.e. wait 2 years) I will do it.
I noticed though I was adjusting meetings to avoid having to see him and thought I should back off on the friendship. And then I realised I was making decision based on someone else not on my needs (i.e. my need to go to a meeting).
I am trying to hand over this and other fear to God so that I am following his will, not mine. It is amazing what is coming up when I focus on myself and not the drinker. Yes... I have a LOT to do!