Thanks for the post. I'm new here too. Hopefully your bf is serious about the change he says he wants. I find it helpful to vent once in a while, study and read a lot and wear myself out with a good fulfilling day. Learn about alcoholism and don't sacrifice your desires because of his drinking. I know I was exactly in your position once and made the wrong decisions. I obsessed about her drinking, general apathy, etc. I too said 'we are great together when she is sober' and 'this is the time, she is quitting' I got her to detox and then rehab. She was out for a week before she went back to being my 37 year old child of a wife. I believe AA, NA, and Al Anon can work if the person is willing to work the plan. Don't be too let down if he isn't as serious about it as you had hoped. Take this with a grain of salt and I hope you can both find peace.