Hello afla, Welcome!! Glad you found us, but so sorry for the reason.
Yeah, the whole "He'd be perfect if only....", "Why doesn't he see what he's doing?", "How can I get him to stop?"
The utterly sad and stark reality is that an active alcoholic will only stop drinking if and when THEY decide they need to stop. Those of us who love someone who struggles with addiction learn about detachment and boundaries. In other words, what sort of behavior are you willing to put up with?
I found SR one night because of my stepson. Eventually, my then boyfriend (now husband) and I learned to stop enabling and to protect ourselves. It took a few years, but my stepson now lives and works in another state, and is, to the best of our knowledge, sober.
I hope your boyfriend follows through with the phone call to the local centre and that he grabs hold of recovery with both hands.
Welcome, again!