Mecanix, I know exactly what you mean. There was "drunk" daddy, who was fun and played with them but then could not remember it the next morning and now there is sober Daddy, who remembers the entire 2 hours I cuddled with my boys on the couch last night talking and watching pre-season football. You are right, you can be there WITH them when you are drunk, but you be there FOR them when you are sober.
It seems so damn simple, why does it have to be so hard sometimes?