Originally Posted by
Pamel 
One thing I DO know is that sobriety takes time to work.
It takes time to work, and it is HARD work. I literally have to think through EVERYTHING before I do or say anything. People might start to think I have some kind of brain injury. I guess I kind of do, now that I think about it.
Anyway, I was able to have my first successful 'fight' with my husband in the sense that it didn't turn into a fight. I felt my tension rising, I felt myself getting upset, he wasn't responding the way that I wanted him to respond, and I took a timeout. We made a contract with each other that if a conversation seems to be turning into something ugly, we have the right to stop, walk away, and approach it again with a clear mind. I am a fighter, and yet I was able to do it!!! I calmly got off the phone, and I will talk to him after work.
(I'm still right, of course.)
