Thanks everyone so much. I really have been questioning whether the things I've said were wrong, it's all to easy for me to accept that I'm the bad guy. But inside I know I'm right to defend myself and tell her. I have yet again attempted to make a dinner date with my friend tonight, and I'd like to check in (a friend of ours talked to her recently about this), and see if she's seen a doctor, gone to a meeting (my friend sent her to moderation management -- which frustrates me so much), or progressed at all. If she doesn't like what I have to say again tonight, or treats me like an attacker or an inconvenience, this just may be it.
Thank you all for your support!!!
Xoxoxo