I completely relate to your post. Anxiety after drinking...for myself....has progressed to anxiety 'immediately' after drinking and in the same day. I'm not going to lie and say that I'm sober because I am Not. As far as perceiving others as being 'fine' after a drinking binge, I suppose that some may be o.k. and others may not. You'll never know what someone truly feels after a night out with excessive alcohol. As for myself, I feel displaced and numb the next day. Just want to hide in my bed and doze intermittently to escape the guilt / shame.