Hi Kathy!
My advice?
Keep your "plan" childishly simple.
Don't worry about tomorrow, next week, next month or next year. Instead, put all of your energy, meaning all of your mind, body, heart and soul into staying clean and sober
today and today only.
The smaller you make the goal, the more achievable it becomes.
I wouldn't go to that BBQ tomorrow either. After the funeral I would simply skip out. Don't put any more pressure on yourself than is absolutely necessary.If they ask why, tell them you're not feeling well.
Good luck and God Bless
