Welcome Flower! Glad to have you join the family.
It's so good that you want to talk about what alcohol is doing to your life. At 21 I would never have admitted there was a problem - so I just kept trying to manage it. I wish I'd done what you are - things would have been so different. I went from enjoying a few once in awhile to drinking all day. In the end, I was completely dependent on it. I hope you'll find the answers and support you need by being here. You'll never regret reaching out for help.