Welcome roberooski.
It's great to have you join the family. We all understand how you're feeling right now - I hope it helps to ease your anxiety a bit.
As for what your daughter said - I know it hurts, but try to focus on yourself right now. My family & friends were totally confused by my behavior & never understood it. As I healed and left the crazy drunk me behind - they all came around. It took awhile, but it happened. Be kind and patient with yourself and everything should fall into place. Congratulations for making this big change in your life.