you may want to check out AlAnon. you aren't born with the knowledge of how to live with a drinker, in recovery or not. it's hard to know where the line is and how to protect yourself from stepping over it or what to do when he does. i'm an alcoholic so i don't know a lot except to tell you to seek the advice of people who have dealt with a situation like yours. you're not alone. you don't have to be alone. there are people who can help you if you reach out to them.