Guys, I get what you're saying and don't disagree with you completely but I can't help but think the whole vanishing and disappearing stuff is very "addict" behaviour? I know non addicts can do the same but I can see some link there.
I'm not really the best at advising on threads so am quite interested in the point of views you are taking on kbutlers situation.
KButler - I know what people are saying might seem harsh. When I first joined this forum I was a bit stunned at how people put things to me but I can honestly say its said to help you and to help you see things differently. You don't have to agree with what everyone saying but I'm sure it's not being said to hurt you. For me, I tried to keep open minded when I was getting advice that I felt was a bit harsh and used it to question my behaviour and self reflect.