Onawa, for me, with my unbearably narcissistic husband, as I grew healthier in terms of taking care of my needs---I reached a "tipping point" with him--from which there was no return. It was like any "love" I had felt just died and withered away. That was decades ago--I divorced him---and never regretted it. Oh, by the way--he was a revisionist too!!!!
That annoys me soooo!
I don't know what to exactly advise you---because, one day i simply "saw the light" and knew that I had to leave. I couldn't get away fast enough. I took the three young children and left (via divorce proceedings).
You aren't going to change his revisionistic ways---staying away from his physical presence is the only thing I can think of.
sorry.
dandylion