Originally Posted by
amy55 
I do understand that you felt that you had to do that, but it is similar to trying to get empathy from a rock. .
You know, I figured that after 14 months of sobriety, that he would develop empathy. I was wrong. I see many of these posts are about active drinkers; my ex-AB is sober. I guess I am supposed to be grateful for that, but the thing is, I didn't know he was an alcoholic until we split up. Same as alcoholic behavior; I just thought he was an *******/chaotic/angry/dramatic/negative mess. He drew me back, because he outed himself as an Alcoholic with promises of recovery. I was excited...there IS a reason and it CAN be fixed. Not for us. Holy ****, this stuff is complicated.