Secret insider alcoholic info: everything an active alcoholic says equates to "please don't leave me; let me continue my addiction."
My mom finally asked my dad to leave until he got sober. He went straight into treatment and stayed sober, BUT...he was out of the house for 3 years until they both decided to move back in. They are still together 27 years later.
The key was my mom clearly defined her boundaries and stuck to them, no forgiveness for 3 days of sobriety and a bouquet of grocery store flowers.