LedBut, perhaps a legal seperation would be the best solution, right now---It would give you time to work on yourself and to see how you feel about the marriage. Marriage counceling is almost universally considered useless unless the drinking is out of the picture.
Living with active alcoholism and the stress and conflict that comes with it is very damaging to the children. They are better off with one sane, sober, and calm parent.
I would consult a lawyer about what separation entails and find an alanon meeting--ASAP.
dandylion