When I was in very early sobriety I remember feeling especially bad when my bf would be drinking and I wasn't. Ias far as couldn't tell him to not drink; not drinking was my thing not his. I held a resentment towards the fact that he was drinking and I would take it out on myself by thinking I had a boring life because he was able to drink and have fun. I had to learn to not associate drinking as "fun". It is hard to live with someone who drinks. I still haven't figured it out making it work without making myself nuts.