Have you ever read the book called 'Women who love too much'. It was the first time I really started looking at myself because of what I had read.
It was painful to go through the recommended exercises but i did find that it helped me to start making healthier choices.
SR is so good because we are all here and can actually get a definitive list of dos and donts - .
Years ago I did the yo-yo thing because I didn't know any better. Now with SR and alanon - its great to have good guidance.
Just even knowing somebody else is feeling like this helps so much, i'm not alone in my craziness. Tonight my sponsor said to me - don't forget being with him was like death by a thousand cuts.
Hang in there.