I too spend way too much time waiting for us to have a conversation to resolve all this, it's crazy because there is no solution as he is alcoholic. And I know if I see him it will just cause more pain so why why why am I doing this to myself? It's that abandonment feeling. Makes you feel totally lost. The book is great but I'm having trouble reading it for long ...started antidepressants 2 days ago and getting some side effects one of these is an annoying headache making it difficult to focus for long. God what a state to get yourself in over a man! Beth thank you for your kind words and humour. Hope you manage to visit Glasgow one day. I'm staying well away from pub monsters they're poisonous to me lol