Liz, put on that happy face, tell him to go if that's what he wants, but do not try to fix yourself and agree to do things that aren't good for you, just so that he will be happy.
It isn't the answer. You have been there and done that. It didn't work. Just another manipulative tactic of his so he can have his cake and eat it also.
Edited to add: That was a quick response that I gave you. It was an immediate reaction. I was p!ssed for you.
My ex did this to me so many times. Yep, if he wasn't getting it from me, he wanted to get it elsewhere. This after the numerous times, I told him if he was nice to be he would probably be getting it!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Good that you are getting your ducks in a row, and you are preparing for the end, if needed.
I am sorry that you are feeling sad, and depressed. I know how much it would hurt me when mine said those thing.
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