Originally Posted by
nbay2013 
One of the main issues I had with my ex-AB was his self-centerness. Of course when he was drinking it was off the charts; y'all all know, the whining, blaming, pity party was just amazing for a grown man. In fact, I broke it off with him before I knew he was a drunk..I broke it off due to negativity, rudeness, bizarre behavior, etc etc.
This also struck me. I was with my ex the first time when he was sober, and I was unaware of the extent of his drinking problem. But even while we were dating and he was sober for almost a year, he was rude, insensitive, and what I'm realizing now was a major problem accepting responsibility for ANYTHING. It was always me who was being "too sensitive" or "a baby," when in reality, he was totally insensitive. At the time, I had no idea that alcohol could've affected how he'd act even when not drinking at that moment. Pretty amazing...