Damn it I like cooking, cats, gardening, and houseplants, poetry, and art.
What DreamsofSerenity said!
I was listening to NPR with some segment on Bruce Springsteen fans, and one of them said something I really liked, that Springsteen's music was all about what it meant to be "a decent man." I'm not a huge Springsteen fan, I like him fine, but what I really liked about it was that by this definition, a "decent man" is someone who is honest, kind, and hard-working, and who knows he is needed and special in the role he is in.
Notice that that has nothing to do with the size of his junk or the thickness of his beard and/or wallet and/or Popeye forearms. It has nothing to do with a stereotype, and yet we (Americans, anyway) all probably have an image in mind of what Springsteen's "decent man" is AND totally respect it.
Honest, kind, and hard-working.
Here's another meditation when you want one:
“Do I contradict myself? Very well, then I contradict myself, I am large, I contain multitudes.” -- Walt Whitman