"My ex married me because I was a kind, sensitive man, who was unafraid to show his feelings. She divorced me because she wanted a real man."
Well, that was her loss, then, if she defined "real man" as something other than a kind, sensitive man who was unafraid to show his feelings.
My definition of a "real man" is much like Tuffgirl's. Come to think of it, that's pretty close to my definition of a "real woman" too. A
real mensch is true to themselves, their values, and their principles. And that's the people I want to surround myself with. Whether as friends or as a spouse.