Originally Posted by
fini 
Jazzfish,
for me, the real turnaround came when i knew myself to be a drunk. it was a moment of clarity where i went from 'i have this problem with alcohol' to 'this is who i am'.
a totally different thing: i had accepted my behaviours and usual inability to control the stuff/myself around the stuff, but it was still all about what i was doing. in that moment, i saw that it's about who i am.
Really well put! I hadn't articulated it to myself but I think this was part of my turning point, too. I realized that the drinking was no longer an aspect of my identity, it was subsuming my identity. So choosing to drink is not just choosing my activity for the evening... it's choosing an identity. And one I don't want!