Originally Posted by MamaKit

Firebolt,
This sounds pretty awful at the moment. It hurts and you are angry. From what you posted above, it sounds like you know what you need to do. It's one thing to know the right thing to do intellectually but it's another to muster up the discipline to follow that with actions.

No more checking facebook is a good start. You know how it makes you feel to look at it or to engage with him when he calls you names. And it sure isn't a good feeling.

He is lashing out at you because he likely feels you slipping away and he wants any connection with you that he can get ....even if it is a negative exchange. He now knows that this will work...because you engaged. So, you can probably expect more of the same. (merry-go-round).

Tune out his "drunklish" (foreign language of the drunk) and focus on your plans to move on. Don't engage him if you can help it. You are on your way to a better life without alcoholism dragging you down. You can do this and you are going to be ok.
Hang in there.
Hugs,
MamaKit