Paige, There are several things I would like to touch on here:
My mom says I date people that have a lot of problems, because I want to help them. And its true I like to help everyone.
Have you read the stickies at the top of this forum on codependency? The is a great book called Codependent No More by Melanie Beattie most libraries have it.
since I am bipolar I dont do well with out structure, after a while I will get manic
I also have a diagnosis of bipolar and know all to well what mania can do you don't have to reply here but are you on medication ? Stress doesn't mix well with people for many reasons but as you already know it is a double edge sword for you
What are you doing to take care of you and try and prevent the illness from spiraling?
You and I know how important that we do take care of us...
As, you are seeing you can't save him only he can you can help yourself however guard your sobriety, watch your symptoms with the bipolar and figure out why you date the same type guys if you ever need to wanna talk feel free to pm me I could have almost wrote this post with a few exceptions years ago.
Focus on you your worth it.