I needed to get truly honest with myself and my problem, alcohol period. All else were situations. I went to AA before the internet and other programs were around. I didn't like a lot of what I heard about me by way of the speakers experiences and continued my way which never worked and was really insane when I thought I was normal. Finally I surrended and started following directions of the people not drinking. I learned a lot, like that alcohol is but the tip of the problem and I/we drink because of our miss handled feelings. It is a long learning process for someone who likes the easier short way for fixing things. I was told to keep coming and am grateful I did 30+ years later. BE WELL