Originally Posted by
Tuffgirl 
Hammer, you're a dude so I am going to talk to you like one, with all due respect, of course.
That is good of you. Thank you.
What makes you think she is going to change at some magical point in time?
Nothing and not really magic.
I mean, really, is the writing not on the wall already?
Dunno. Really, else I would not be asking.
What are you waiting for?
To make sure I do not pull the plug early.
If this isn't working, brush the dirt off your feet and leave. It really is that simple. Oh sure, you can spin tall tales of all the hassles of divorce with kids involved, but dude, your kids aren't happy either.
No, those are not my tales.
My tale is that I will not pull the pin on my little buddy (Mrs. Hammer) until/unless I am sure they are already dead.
One day you CAN find someone who will treat you better. but the first step is to change your life so when that opportunity comes along, you are in an actual position to take it.
If you want things to change - make them change. It starts with you.
Peace,
~T
Sure. I know pretty well how to set and execute a plan of action. Not the question or the real topic here.
My real question is: How long is a reasonable time before the new stable state -- whatever that is -- becomes set after rehab?
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Maybe think of this like someone goes underwater.
They are down a minute. They are likely fine and pop back up shortly afterward.
HOWEVER,
If they are down 5 minutes . . . maybe not.
AND
If they down a half-hour . . . they are not likely coming back up.
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What is the reasonable time before you consider them Zombie or Dead?