Im totally at the place of focusing on me and my kids.
I would leave if he came back and drank.
My goal is not to end his drinking. or to help him. or to stay. or to go.
My goal is we do not want to live in an alcoholic household anymore. I will do what it takes to get to that place, as soon as possible. Like August 1.
Its just that he has drank 30 years. he has said he thinks daily about quitting. I know he's in that spiral of love/ hate. It would be easier to stay. I wont put up with anything at all or really help or bargain or anything.
I already told him, you either get it or you dont. You either will quit and provide a non-alcoholic household, and do it willingly....... or Im out. Im just done and ready to go if sobriety doesnt happen.