Dear bobbysocks, since you asked (LOL), my opinion is that the last thing a depressed and anxious person needs is to be living with an abusive alcoholic!! That may also be contributing to the depression and anxiety.
If you have been living with this for a while, no doubt, you have had an erosion of your self-esteem and self confidence. Probably, you have become somewhat isolated.....that usually goes with the package. The isolation can make you feel "stuck" and seriously underestimate your potential and options.
For starters, bobbysocks, how do you respond to this......?
very sin cerely,
dandylion
OH, by the way---Welcome!