Thanks. I could have given lots of information to explain the situation I'm dealing with (and make myself look less like a wimp!), and show the level of craziness I've had from that quarter - it would make for an entertaining read in a sick sort of way - but for my own sake I just want to find a holding pattern I can put the whole situation in (for example I should not be up at 3.15am stressing about a mad person :-))
Yeah we have a lawyer. He tends to inadvertently make things worse because he assumes there will be reasonableness! All the PREVIOUS aggravation is documented (I was advised to keep a log etc), but since our move away things have been happening that can't be documented, look innocent on the face of it. But whilst less overt the design behind it is clear if you get my drift (I promise I am not paranoid - I just don't think spewing out all the minutiae would explain, I think you probably get what I mean)