We have a lot in common, Evening Rose. We have talked. It is hard, but I am finding...that the only thing that works for me is to continue healthy detachment and I pray for the kids who have gone with the alcoholic mother in her hatred...including a sister I defended all my life and stood up for...and two brothers. My Dad, apparently was my defender...it is amazing that nothing gets noticed...but it is true. I am finding a lot of happiness now after 13 years of battling the monster and just getting treated worse and blamed more. It is not worth it...although healthy detachment has been a real hard thing for me to practice...as I also have addicts in my own children...so the ugliness does get inherited and does get passed on. I am doing so much better in the past 10 years of taking care of myself (was at 0 on that before) and finally got to the point where I so want to just enjoy every day enough to walk away...let go; let God...and enjoy the good there is. God Bless.