"You just have to wait.
She is in TOO MUCH PAIN,
even more then you.
She can not face it or you right now. "
Too right!! I'm so glad you have taken that message on board. It doesn't mean putting your life on hold, but it does mean not trying to force her into recovery.
She knows how you feel now. You know you have to "Let go and Let God", but have you thought of "LIVE and let live". You need to keep living. You can't stagnate whilst she does what she needs to do.
I wish you luck in what you need to do to get better. Keep coming back here - it helps.
Love
Minnie
xxx