Hi there,
When it comes to her drinking you did not cause it, you cannot control it and you cannot cure it. Focus on your own recovery and don't make it contingent upon someone else's.
At some point, you might benefit from Al Anon: there are meetings out there for people just like us who are alcoholics and codependents too. Those are called Double Winners Meetings.
I made a thread here on SR just for us. Feel free to read away and post.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...loved-one.html We can become and stay clean and sober and find contentment whether our loved ones are still drinking/using or not.