I finally feel strong enough to let this play out as it will.
This is good, what he chooses to do will unfold.
What about you? What would you like for yourself? Is having him remain at home as he is going to make you happy or will the anxiety and manipulation continue. Silent treatment is manipulation in a passive/aggressive worst way.
Would you be happier with him (as he is today) or without him ( as you are today)?
Something that has helped many of us regain our balance and reclaim our lives is going to live meetings. I cannot tell you how supportive they are and how they give us courage when we feel stuck.
Please spend at least as much time planning your future, your dreams, with or without him, as you do worrying about him as he is today. You are worth a better tomorrow.
Hugs