Can you step back a bit and give him the benefit of the doubt? No trust is a killer to relationships...I understand he has to earn it but to enable him to prove it, you might need to just let him get on with it for a while. If he is going to lie then the truth will out eventually - can you concentrate on yourself a little? Go out with friends, get a hobby (I got a horse when my husband was impossible to communicate with lol). He is a grown up and does need to make this journey himself, it must be tough for you - most relationships change a bit over time so hang in there xxx